Wednesday, 20 June 2018

RAGIR CAMPAIGN: Your View

Still on the matter...

THE RIGHT AGE FOR GETTING INTO A RELATIONSHIP



OLAGUNJU GOODNESS OLAYINKA says:
For me, getting into a relationship is not a sin. What makes it a sin is the kind of relationship one gets into. But in one way or the other, youths find themselves in relationships. In the kind of environment we find ourselves, they say when you are 18 years, its believed that you have some certain liberties.
However I'd conclude that you don't need a certain age to be in a relationship. What matters is being mature enough to handle a relationship and knowing what's good from what's bad.




FAMILUGBA VICTOR ODUNAYO says:
Age shouldn't define maturity. To be factual, there is no stipulated age for a guy or lady to go into a relationship. But, I will suggest the age of 18, after all, constitutionally anyone that clocks 18 is old and matured enough to make his or her own decision.


KELANI JOSEPH says:
To my own understanding that right age for youths to get into a relationship is 18 years and above, based on some reasons; and if the love is there it won't be a problem.


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Saturday, 16 June 2018

I can't commit to a man who has not proven himself to be a good provider- SARAH OJATTAH

ABOUT SARAH:
Ojattah Sarah, 21, is a Journalist and Make-up Artist, born March 5, 1997.
As a young C.E.O of "Fin's makeover", she is passionate about music and research.
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Here is what she says about THE RIGHT AGE FOR GETTING INTO A RELATIONSHIP:


If You are ready for a relationship, then you should be ready to prepare yourself to get married within a reasonable amount of time. If you cannot seriously think about marriage, you should probably not be involved in an exclusive relationship with the opposite sex.

If we decided to give a certain age as the answer to this, then it is not true.
Talking about "Marriage",
Marriage is for people who are "emotionally mature" and from a scientific/biological standpoint, we know that the brain continues to mature into the mid-twenties. This does not mean that we are automatically matured by age 20-27, nor does it mean all teenagers are immature.

Relationship or marriage is not for a girl or a boy, it is for men and women; although right now in our generation, we ignore the truth.

Apparently there's no age gap in being in an Ideal relationship.
Really, we all know age is just a number and a state of mind, I have known some 18 year olds who are more mature than some of my 30-year-old pals.

 Surely what matters to a good, and lasting relationship is how well you get on, understand and respect each other. Regardless, the society seems set on putting a number on the 'ideal age gap', and this claims to have found exactly what difference in age will make for a lasting, and successful relationship.

A Male and a female who thinks they can handle Financial and emotional stuff can carry on in being in a relationship.

 "A man shouldn't  bother pursuing a serious relationship if he is not financially ready to take care of a girl or a family because I am sure a mature and sensible woman wouldn't  want to commit to a man who has not proven himself to be a good provider. Well for me, I can't".

I don’t mean that a guy has to be rich, just financially stable. Both men and women should look for someone who is disciplined financially.
 There's no age gap in getting to a  relationship.

Maturity and  Stability are what to consider when getting into a relationship.

RAGIR CAMPAIGN: Your View

still on the matter...


what is THE RIGHT AGE FOR GETTING INTO A RELATIONSHIP?


DAIRO EMMANUEL says:
I believe it is not about age, it is everybody's choice. Although there are circumstances that leads to relationships, and these circumstances can happen to anyone and at any age grade, so far they are a teen, or 18. some people get into relationships mainly because of peer pressure, some people get into it because of youthful ego/desires, while others enter relationships because they so much pity a person they see, and gradually, as they move closer to the person, to help, it gradually turns to a relationship. 
So for me , there are different circumstances that leads to relationships, but I believe 19 upward won't be immature to get into a relationship, since they are not kids anymore. And anything they learn from the relationship, will teach them a lesson that will be stocked in their brain, till marriage. Since that age is closer to something like that (marriage).


CHINEMELU says:
Well it is important to consider your child as an individual. Consider their emotional maturity and sense of responsibility. For many kids, 16 seems to be an appropriate age, but it may be entirely suitable for a mature 15 year old to go out on a date.


TAIWO OPEYEMI says:
Ever since I was a teenager, I was never in support of teenage dating. I see dating as a serious period of getting to know this person of the opposite sex so we could get married. So to me, once a person knows he is ready and mature enough for marital responsibilities (financially, emotionally,parenthood,and so one) they could go into a relationship.

ADESANYA OMOTAYO thinks:
The right age for relationship should be when you are prepared to get married. If you are not thinking about marriage, you should not be involved. 



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RAGIR CAMPAIGN: Your View

RAGIR CAMPAIGN!

WHAT IS THE RIGHT AGE FOR GETTING INTO A RELATIONSHIP?

OLUFEMI GIDEON thinks:
 A relationship can start at any point in time, meaning, one can start a relationship as long as u know what the relationship is and what it means to you, having a relationship is the same as socializing, getting to know others and making them a part of you. For some kids, they start their relationship from a tender age, forming a strong friendship with other kids who they like.

ABOSEDE HANNAH says:
There's no particular age, but that doesn't mean you can go into a relationship by 15 years of age. Be educated first or learn how to do anything, in other words, have a means of income, have plans for your life before thinking of relationship.



ORIMILADEYE MORDECAI says:
The right age,hmmm. As for me, I don't think there is really a specific age for one to get into a relationship. Its just a matter of MATURITY. And when I say maturity, ain't still talking about how old one is, but how matured one's mind is. Maturity spans through the areas like spirituality(which is the focal point), financial stability(also important), mental awakeness, career wise. Also true Love is the basis of everything. Let me end it with "you can go into a relationship when your friendship has passed the test of time without breaking". It is friendship first!.



OLALEYE BOLUWATIFE EZEKIEL believes:
As far as relationship is concerned, there is no right, but right time; a time when one is mature enough to understand the nitty-gritty of the word "relationship". A time when one has sufficient wisdom to apply and a great understanding. That time can fall at any age, not necessarily 18 or 21. Self-discipline is also key at that particular time.


AJIBADE MORAKINYO says:
There is no specific age (since you have sound mind) but there are specific things anyone willing to dive into relationship must consider. He or she must consider his or her level of maturity; ranging from character, to  intelligence (physical and spiritual), to self control, to self determination, to discipline, to sacrifice, to adaptation, to growth (physical or spiritual), to his or her ability to love and no greed is found in him or her, to accommodating others, to endurance, to tolerance, to patience, to kind heart - quick to forgive and not referencing pass trespasses when similar occurrence happened, to respecting others, to perseverance, and many others to mention few. However, trying to achieve these canally might take years, but with the Holy Spirit, you are good. With this, the devil cannot manipulate the relationship.

ULEBOR FAVOUR thinks:
 The right age to get into a relationship should be 20 and above...reason because the person should have a little sense of maturity,humour and should be ready for marriage.


Friday, 15 June 2018

RAGIR CAMPAIGN: Your View

RAGIR CAMPAIGN!


Okay fam, here are some contributions so far on "The right age for getting into a relationship". To know what this is about, please refer to the previous post. Meanwhile, the floor is still open to send contributions to the WhatsApp number- 08127985721. Read on...

WHAT IS THE RIGHT AGE FOR GETTING INTO A RELATIONSHIP?EBERE OBIOHA says:
I don't think there is a right age. I just think when it comes to relationship, what works for you might not work for me.


OKPARA FAVOUR says:
I think 18 is very OK..When I was 12, I made a decision that I was going to go into a relationship at the age of 20, but 18 is very perfect.


EBUNOLUWA PRECIOUS says:
For me once you're above 18 and you're mentally,psychologically, spiritually and financially capable to handle one.


IBENYE QUEEN says:
It depends on maturity but the person should at least be 18.


TIFASE AYODEJI SIMS says:
In my opinion, The right age isn't a constant. It's "self maturity" dependent. Some people mature earlier than others due to their Rugged or Fast paced Childhood. So Its "Self dependent".


BENARD VICTORY CHINONYERE says:
Relationship is sweet. It is supposed to be a platform for courting (know each other) among two persons that are in love with each other. Relationship is aimed at finding the right partner for marriage but it should be done with maturity.
The truth of it is that relationship has been and is being abused by many youth in the society. What is supposed to be a serious step to marriage has now become a thing of play where childishness is displayed. Relationship is not for kids but for those that understand the intricacies and complexities of this life and are ready to fight through. Many youth have made sexual mistakes because of a poor understanding of what relationship is all about. Information is power. Youths should seek information on relationship before getting involved with one.
As regards the age of relationship,  it varies for many. It can and should never be the same for everyone. The major thing about it is that maturity is the determinant if one should get into a relationship or not. Someone can be 23 and not understand the intricacies of relationship. Therefore, going into it can be disastrous in the long run.  Another can be 16 and even be matured, due to understanding relationship. Maturity is the key word before going into a relationship. You should be matured. Maturity is not of the age but the mind. A matured person will first have in mind the purpose of going into a relationship before he goes into one. This is what many youth in our days lack.



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Monday, 11 June 2018

RAGIR CAMPAIGN: All there is to know about it.

Hello YnM lovers!
Great news over here!

Our first campaign is up for this month and it's an online campaign!

RAGIR is an abbreviation for "THE RIGHT AGE FOR GETTING INTO A RELATIONSHIP".

YnM mission states: "Giving Youths The Right Mindset About Youth Lifestyle" and for us, this is one of them.

Everyone holds different views about "what time is right to get into a relationship". So, this campaign serves to bring all our views together, however opposing they may be. We get to learm from one another.




However, on a weekly basis, throughout the campaign, we will have renowned experts give us a "weekly-round-up-view" on this topic.

We would also like to know your views on this topic in order to get contributions for the campaign.
Please, tell us your view on "What is the right age for getting into a relationship" via WhatsApp message or direct SMS to 08127985721 in the format below:
-Your view/comment
- Your full name
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NOTE: YnM will now have campaigns every three months henceforth, so opinions/suggestions are welcome. What is that topic or issue of concern that you want us to do campaign on? Kindly share it via WhatsApp message to 08127985721 or drop your WhatsApp number in the comment box below and we will reach you. Due acknowledgment is guaranteed!

Also look out for updates on contributions from fellow YnM lovers in our next post!

Dear YnM lovers, it's our campaign, our first one at that and we ain't scared of starting small!
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Saturday, 2 June 2018

DOYIN'S DIARY: The Misery Behind Those Hawking Legs

Be fast now...
Why are you so slow...
Give me change na...
Why you no go get change...
See as you dirty...


She deserves love. That little girl hawking "gala" in the traffic you're stuck in. Why don't you at least consider her tiny little legs and just smile at her after being at your service.

Adedoyin would always fret whenever the clock hit "Ten" at night. 10pm in her life denotes the boisterous face of her step mother and the beginning of night duties.
She would always do things sluggishly because of the stressful nature of her daily routine.
Doyin wakes up by 4am in the morning to prepare her six-in-a-pack walnuts to sell throughout the day, sets out for the day's work by 6am on empty stomach, walks about 120 kilometres between 6am and 10pm and sets out to go home and eat dinner with "mummy".
Doyin wouldn't eat dinner until her stepmum was sure that all the wares were completely sold out and that the money was complete- not just complete, but extra complete (because , of course, someone must have told her "keep the change"). And if there was no extra, she would be tortured until she coughs out some extra money. Most times, she stole from careless pockets, just to avoid torture.
She would eat a noiseless dinner and hurriedly fetch water for her parents to bathe the next day and save herself the stress of fetching for herself because that would mean an extra mile for another bucket and she can forego bathing, just to rest her tired legs and get some sleep.
Doyin would lay down at 12am, but would cheat herself out of sleep because she would reminisce on everything that happened throughout the day; from the deep injury she sustained while walking down the lightless street leading to her house, to the narrow escape she managed from the wheel of a drunk taxi driver, to the unknown "Golaith" who squeezed her butt, to the angry buyer who called her a snail, to the frustrated meat seller who called her "mumu".
Doyin would fall asleep by 1am after thinking about these things and wake up to a stinging spatula spank from her "mum" and continue her daily routine without bathing, not to mention the chopped-off slippers she has to wear for wearing sake instead of protection sake.

              photocredit: fihintography

Why not be the element of laughter in Doyin's day. There's nothing wrong in telling her she looks preety even with her untidy hair. Absolutely nothing wrong in telling her to keep that Fifty naira change instead of letting her run after a moving vehicle while you've already eaten the Walnuts halfway. Why not accept that dirty Hundred Naira, instead of yelling at her like she made the money so. Why not teach her the right thing to say instead of calling her a rude child. Why not smile at her when she says "Aunty, will you buy?", instead of giving her a disgusting look or even winding your car window up against her.

                   photocredit: dailytimes.ng

You live in a totally different world from Doyin, whether or not you see it.
While she's praying for traffic, you're praying against it.
While you've had breakfast and intend to use her walnuts as brunch, she's still functioning with the "Bread and Akara" dinner she had last night.
While she's running after you, where you're sitted comfortably in your air-conditioned car, her legs are weary but the fear of torture won't allow her pay attention to them.
While you're mocking the trouser she doesn't wash, she's busy calculating the next pocket to pick to make up for extra profit.
While you shower at night, Doyin can't, because she's too tired to walk extra miles to fetch water.
While you can afford an injection to treat yourself when your leg gets pierced by a rusted nail, Doyin can't even mention her injury because she would be flogged for being so blind to see the nail lying on the floor and the injury might as well be wickedly treated, so she has to pretend that everything is well with her legs and make sure she doesn't limp while walking.
While you're driving your children to school, they're busy pointing at her walnuts asking you to buy for them to munch during snacks break.
She's so focused on selling her wares that she's oblivious to what is going on around her.

HELP DOYIN!

There's nothing wrong in taking ten packs of walnuts from Doyin daily to resell at your retail shop.

You can help Doyin by not yelling at her when she stoops to rest a bit at the pavement in front of your shop.

Doyin and her friends are rude but they weren't initially that way.

Frustrated buyers made them that way.
Violence at home made them that way.
Peer pressure made them that way.
The need to defend themselves against rash-talking buyers, made them that way.

If you're going to make Doyin cry, let it be because she is too emotional to bear the fact that you told her she's beautiful, not because you threw her walnuts back at her for being too sluggish to "give you change".

The fastest way to kill a child is through his emotions. Don't kill that child! Give him a "high- five" or "knuckle-bump" after serving you.
Smile at everyone of them!
Don't let them in your world of hurt. Bring them out of theirs!
Show love to that child today!
Bless up guys, it's still a new month!


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Friday, 1 June 2018

June Celebrants


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SNITCHED: Episode Two (Double Wahala)

Who breaks up with their partner over an issue so minute?, a male voice called from the white-tiled balcony. At least let me explain now...