Five Statements You Cannot Understand Until You Experience

Hello Successful individual!

Just a little write-up to spice up your day.

Sitting behind my desktop today, I kept reflecting on experiences I have had with friends and somethings I understand now that I failed to understand then because I was not in their shoes.

There are so many statements people make that we criticize them for. Some of these critics are traceable to the fact that we have not or are not experiencing what they are going through. If we must maintain good relationships with people, we must learn to "be in their shoes". 

We must realize that they need someone to also understand them as much as we understand ourselves. Most times when we respond negatively to statements people make, they often smile and say "she doesn't understand because she has not experienced it". What then do we do? Should we force experience on ourselves when experience has not come our way?

Just before the answer comes up, here are five statements people make that are often misunderstood by people who are not "in their shoes":

1. I AM BUSY

This statement is often negatively approached by people we say it to. Some of these people make out time out of their not-too-busy-schedule to communicate with someone and when they get that "I'm busy" reply, it turns them off. If you do not get busy, you cannot understand a busy person, so you castigate them. And even when you get busy, you still cannot understand why they cannot make out time because you may not be as busy as they are.

Although, one recurrent irony about people is that they tend to misuse this statement. They tell you they are busy, when in the actual sense, they are not.

2. I AM LONELY

If you have not been lonely, you will get irritated when people say they are lonely, especially when you are dealing with same-sex. No matter how attached you are to a person, you cannot understand their loneliness.

3.I AM SICK

This is funny but true. If you were once a little child, you can relate. Some African parents see their child's expression of sickness as an exaggeration, although it sometimes is. Children will always think to themselves "Daddy does not understand". 

4. I AM TIRED

This is often seen as laziness. Tell your parents you are tired and watch them nag you for being such a lazy child.The only time they understand is when they see reasons for your tiredness, otherwise, you have to get up and stop being "lazy".

I will leave you to add the fifth one in the comment box below.

Meanwhile, I urge you to learn how to understand people when they make any of the above statements. You cannot possibly understand a feeling until you feel it. Feelings are meant to be felt,not said. If you cannot feel it, you cannot understand it.

Having a reason to castigate people is not enough reason to castigate them. If we must maintain healthy relationships, we must learn to understand people even when they do not give us a reason to.

Thanks for reading through. I love you and you know it. Enjoy the rest of your day. 

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