Monday, 13 August 2018

Words Kill: Stop the Murder


Hello YnM lovers, 

Just before you have lunch, let’s talk.

Have you also heard that words kill? 
Everybody has probably heard that statement. Most of us have even used it in addressing issues, but I’ve come to understand one thing: The most popular statements are the most “neglected”, when it comes to acting on them. People tend to say one thing and do another. Think of ten popular statements in the world today, and find out that only two have about 50% percent of people acting on them.

For example, there is this popular statement that reads: Silence is the best answer for a fool. Oh! How I misused this statement as a little girl. People use this statement when they want to make the “opponent” feel bad or even feel like a fool. But if you think deeply, this statement is not for you to “say”, but to “do”. The only time you can say it, is when you are advising someone else, not when you are in that situation. 

You get into an argument with someone, the person starts nagging and ranting and you look them in the eye and say to them “silence is the best answer for a fool”. In other words, “I have nothing to say to you, so I will be silent”. Well, that is wrong. If you’re going to be silent, then do it already, why say it? Silence is an action! The fact that it is spelled out in words, only makes it readable. In this situation, the appropriate action to take is to “BE SILENT, smile and walk away” or, be silent and walk away. You don’t have to smile….😉

There are different ways through which words can kill a person. Of course you know I don’t mean actual death. A person can be killed emotionally too. Your words can kill in so many ways. From being “blunt” to being “rude” or “insultive”.

Let’s talk about being “blunt”.

Irrespective of what the dictionary may say, in the world system, being blunt is different from being straightforward. People utter statements like “I don’t hide what I feel, I am blunt”. Well, you may as well bluntly tell yourself the blunt truth about being “blunt”.

You know one thing about people who are "blunt"?
I feel they have no iota of selflessness in them. Because if they do, they would consider the person they are "being blunt at", before saying those words. If you know that what you are about to say will either hurt the person or make them feel low, wisdom demands that you "keep mute".

To be honest, there is nothing to be proud of, when you are blunt.

People like straightforward and honest people, not blunt people. Get it right.
The difference between both is that one demands wisdom and the other demands otherwise.
Stop being proud of being blunt!
You are hurting others.
And if you are okay with it, you are not selfless enough.
Words kill.
Stop the murder!

Just before you grab your forks, here’s what I want you to do this week, please. I want you to feel special. If you need a reason to, I’ll give you one: Feel special because there is NO ONE in the world like you. There’s just one “you” in the whole universe. Nobody else has your nose, your lips, your eyeballs and those pretty ears of yours. No matter how many “look-alikes” you have, there is just one “you”.
You are special. You have to feel it to really be it.

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Have a  great time devouring lunch!

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  2. Great piece sweetheart, I'm proud of you. Keep up the good job dear

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  3. Your write ups are worthy of publication in newspapers and other media alike as columns. More grace sis.

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  4. Your write ups are worthy of publication in newspapers and other media alike as columns. More grace sis.

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  5. Thank you so much all. Your comments keep me going

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